Thursday, November 8, 2012

Land, Longing, and Home

This is not a typical picklesandpopsiclesticks post. It stems from some reflection prompted by my coursework on place, self, and the moving space between the two. Here it is for what it's worth. Back to my "momoir" sometime. soon. I hope.


Once I sat on the steps by agate at David's Tower, I placed my two heavy baskets at my side. A group of tourists was standing around their guide and I became their target marker. "You see that man with the baskets? Just right of his head there's an arch from the Roman period. Just right of his head." "But he's moving, he's moving!"
I said to myself: redemption will come only if their guide tells them,
"You see that arch from the Roman period? It's not important: but next to it, left and down a bit, there sits a man who's bought fruit and vegetables for his family."            --- Yehuda Amichai, “Tourists”

There’s a crack in everything, that’s how the light gets in. – Leonard Cohen

My grandmother was the prototypical “Wandering Jew”. Her family wandered from Poland to Czechoslovakia to Germany… in her first four years of life. 
She was also the archetypal Zionist pioneer, singing Hebrew medleys, and dancing the Hora in bristly fields.
I was born in Israel: a place where history nudges modernity, where change springs from continuity, where taxi drivers discuss politics, poetry, and Spinoza, where the clerk at the corner store helping you pick a bottle of wine for the dinner party you’re headed to will tell you, rather rudely, that you don’t have to spring for wine AND chocolates (“what are you crazy?”), where your neighborhood bakery hands your kids rogalach (pastries) on Friday mornings,
where every two people hold – and voice – three opinions, where the collective and the individual are inextricably entwined. I was born in a place where community runs deep, emotions run high, and social criticism runs rampant.
Israel’s eminent authors, poets, and artists, are left of center. They engage and wrestle with their country’s policies and socio-cultural dynamics from a place of unrelenting commitment. They will sing to their country until she will open her eyes.  
I was born in Israel. But I have spent most of my life in North America.
In the late summer of 2010 I moved to Israel with my husband and two kids.
In the late summer of 2011 I was there, alone, closing loose ends and packing up our belongings before returning to my family and beginning a new chapter of our lives in Vancouver.
On a saturday night in August 2011, I stood in Tel Aviv, among throngs of Israelis, young and old, Ashkenazi and Sephardic, right and left, in an impassioned demonstration for social justice. Pop singer Karin El Al began singing Ein Li Eretz Acheret (“I have no other country”), and the brackish tears welled in my eyes. The pinch I felt in my heart was visceral. BUT I DO have another country, the thought encroached on me, as I was singing along with hundreds of thousands Israelis, on the eve of my impending departure… It was a realization that was mingled with sorrow and regret, if also with some measure of hope and possibility.
I move between a sense of place and a sense of wandering.
There is something in the experience of the wanderer, I believe, that allows one to reflect on the diverse, the historical, the particular, the “other”, while acknowledging the “self”, the shared, the universal, the human. It takes one outside of oneself, and brings one into oneself.
 I move between countries, between cultures, between disciplines, between modalities.
My hyphenated identity is not fixed, it is not contained, it is not whole. It does not lie behind a door but flutters, in fragments of light, through a crack in a window. I am not entirely Israeli. Nor am I entirely Canadian. I am less. And more.
Like Donne’s compass, my legs are rarely aligned; one is rooted while the other rotates. This allows me to keep moving, to discover new spaces, novel configurations.

Certainly, moving is good. It gets you places. But here’s another paradox: so does sitting still.

As a mother of two young ‘uns, I am frequently running, moving, doing. But the moments of stillness are those that are oftentimes the most far-reaching. Like Yehuda Amichai’s man who sits with his basket of fruit and vegetables by the historic arch from the Roman period, and reflects on his family, I turn to the moments that encompass space and time, the moments in which the mundane is elevated.

After leaving Israel in the summer of 2011, I came “home” to my family. At home, I speak Hebrew to my children. My husband speaks English.
I read Hebrew books. We sing Hebrew songs.
We read English books. We sing English songs.
I embrace my children in English and I kiss them in Hebrew.
They sing in my ears. 
And I open my eyes.